Never a Failure, Always a Lesson
written by Claudia Brüggen & edited by Alexa Mollicchi
The borders of our comfort zone are defined by our fear of failure. This fear keeps us from pursuing our dreams. If we don’t have the courage to cross these borders, they will keep us away from what we actually want. This is how we end up choosing studies, jobs, relationships etc. that maybe feel comfortable, but we know, are not what we actually want.
We often hear other people say “Be courageous!”. But was does courage actually mean? How do we become more courageous and why is that so important?
“Happiness is a form of courage” -Holbrook Jackson
and here is why …
The word “courage” comes from the Latin word “cor”, which means heart. According to Brené Brown, courage, in one of its earliest meanings is “to speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart”. There are many more languages, where the connection between the word courage and acting according to your heart’s desire, is present.
So basically it is as simple as this: acting courageously makes us happy because we act upon our heart’s desire.
Courage is living according to the truth that lives inside our hearts, it’s about acknowledging our own desires, dreams and feelings as real. Despite the uncertainties we face, regardless of what our families, friends or strangers want, expect or think of us, free from whether the journey towards our goal is easy or hard, whether the result is what we were hoping for or not.
In the end, it is not just black and white; it’s not about winning or losing because there is no such thing. It always depends on your point of view. What some people might see as a failure and as a reason to give up, will be a lesson for others and will only encourage them to grow more. And the great thing is, you can pick your point of view!
If you believe in “never a failure, always a lesson“, leaving your comfort zone and being courageous, suddenly seems less scary, because it won’t feel like a matter of life and death anymore.
If everything turns out your way: fine.
If not, it is okay as well, because you won’t think of it as a failure anymore. Instead, you will approach situations like these with curiosity and without judgment. You will start seeing those situations as an opportunity to learn something new.
With every new situation, it will be easier to spot the opportunities to grow and learn. The important thing is: let it always be an uplifting lesson that will make you grow. Learning to handle difficult situations as mentioned above, will have a huge impact on your self-confidence.
If you can dream it, you can do it. -Walt Disney
If you stop being afraid of “failure” it will become easier to figure out what you want in life. Why? because often, you actually find out what you want by learning what you don’t want. Right after high school, I was an intern at a radio station. In my imagination, it was something I would love doing… in reality, it wasn’t. I did not like it. But I didn’t see it as a waste of time. On the contrary, it allowed me to realize what I didn’t want. If we take action, we replace our imagination with reality. If we don’t take action because we are afraid to fail, we create a life around assumptions.
“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality” -Seneca
What makes us happy when acting courageously, is not primarily the outcome of our actions, but the fact that we were following our heart. The fascinating thing about being courageous is that it gives us a sense of happiness, even when things don’t turn out as planned. So instead of letting the word “courage” slow you down, embrace it and let it take you to new places. Your experiences, whether good or bad, are a constant learning opportunity. They will always allow you to improve and bring you one step closer to your goals. What truly matters, is to listen to your heart, accept what it wants and act accordingly.
What are you waiting for? walk down your path and don’t look back!