Anna thanks so much for this!
Rape in any form and any situation is sexual assault and none of us would ever consent for that to happen.
My analogy is: My father beat me repeatedly and relentlessly until I married and he couldn’t get at me. He actually beat me the day before my wedding. This man that was supposed to love me and take care of me did everything but rape me AND he did not love me or take care of me. The fact that he was a minister and a pillar of the community made the problem so much worse for me because no one would believe me or help me. Now that I am 65 years old people say what an incredible thing it is that I turned out so well. My father actually has taken credit for that saying I turned out great because he beat some sense into me. Bullshit!
There is no way I would ever consent to be physically assaulted and neither would any other woman OR man! It doesn’t matter whether it is a fist, belt, gun or a penis physical violence is never OK.
Later in life (after my childhood) I was raped. It was horrible and scarey and demoralizing. I may look OK on the outside but trust me, every OK thing about me has been a huge struggle and the scars are still there — -a few show but mostly they are on the inside.
Until we all accept that rape is brutal, physical assault we cannot ever create a society in which it is absolutely unacceptable in any way, form, place or time. Same is true for child abuse. Until spanking is seen as brutal, physical assault we will continue to have child abuse too.
Sorry for the long response.