YES!
So many times have I heard my female friends tell me how lucky they were that their man accepted them even though they carried a few extra pounds, or didn’t stop having sex with them while they were pregnant and “disgusting”, or that their new husband adopted her very young babies when he married her, or “he even does the laundry!”. Not to mention all the various permutations of exclaiming how lucky they were for not being forced to submit to sexual acts they didn’t enjoy, while at the same time complaining that their men keep cajoling them to do them anyway…
And, yes, not only is this monstrous towards women, but it’s demeaning of men and their intelligence. By not expecting them to have some basic human decency because boys will be boys, well, we are allowing them to be emotionally stunted, child-like creatures. By not fully making them aware of what they’re doing wrong, and by praising them for clearing the lowest possible bar, we are complicit in their lack of development, and we are actually holding a sort of power over them. We reserve the right to approve or disapprove of their statements and actions toward us, as if they are a matter of personal taste, rather than of general ethical consequence, so then we can show how we are not “some shrill feminist” or “anti-man shrew” because we laugh with them when they make the umpteenth fat joke, or show disrespect to other women, but not us.