“ Incredible how you decided to define this as my definition.”
That was the definition you gave me.
“ First, saying Trump is unfit as president isn’t attacking the man …”
Yes, it is. It’s not attacking his opinion, is it? It’s a direct and serious criticism of the man himself.
“… then yes, calling her despicable is abuse …”
So by your definition, we can’t ever describe living people as despicable, or we’re abusing them, no matter how despicable they actually behave.
“ It. Is. Not. That. Hard.”
And yet you got it wrong with regard to the Trump example. Your ideas are inconsistent and confused. So evidently, it *is* that hard — you just don’t seem to want to admit that, for some reason!