Hack to Stay Humble in Debates: ATM-AON

Gokul N K

ATMAON : Though this word sounds like a Sanskrit word(In Sanskrit ATMAON means souls), it is just an acronym for my favourite phrase “According to me, as of now”.

Repeating these words in your mind when you are in a discussion, debate, fight, quarrel or when you are giving a lecture, advice, suggestion or when you are trying to prove a point to someone keeps your feet grounded, mind sane and heart happy. At-least it has worked for me.


ATMAON has two halves ATM and AON. Both of which are equally important.

ATM : According To Me

The first half (According To Me) says that whatever you are saying is your opinion. It reminds that what you are saying need not be the truth but is only your perception of truth.(I am assuming that you are not trying to fool somebody with views which you consider are not true).

It also reminds you that since it is your opinion, the person with whom you are interacting is also entitled to his view, which may or may not be same as yours.

Anyone can easily handle a person who agrees with you. But handling a person who disagrees with you, is what separates the intellectuals from the lay men.

It doesn’t mean that you accept the views which are against your principles. It only says thats you should provide enough room for opinions which are not aligned to your views, especially the ones which are polar opposite of yours.

Well, before ending the first part, let me say all these views are “According To Me.” ;)


AON : As Of Now

If the first part makes sure that we respect others views and opinions, the second part(As Of Now) takes it ahead and points that the our own views and opinions change with time.

Haven’t you experienced this so many times? My views about two topics have changed drastically over the time. Those topics are divorce and abortion.

Similarly most of our views change with time and changing society. What you consider wrong today may become right tomorrow and vice versa. So just remember that your views are not going to be the same.

But remember that your perception of what is good and bad may change, but your perception of right and wrong should not keep changing very frequently.


Takeaway

You don’t need to say these words out loud. Just repeating them in your mind can have the same effect.

So next when you go about proving your point to somebody else, just say to yourself “According to me, as of now” and the person on the other side can definitely sense the difference.

I promise.

Sorry according to me as of now they will sense the difference :P

Gokul N K

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Gokul N K

Inquisitive, Student, Teacher and a wanna be Story teller. Working on https://learningpaths.io/

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