Suspended in Time: 5 Things We Often Forget During Transitional Periods In Our Lives
- It’s okay to feel like you have nothing figured out, only if you try your best to remind yourself that everything that’s supposed to happen will happen. Life’s got a great knack of doing what it wants, when it wants, how it wants. The best you can do is roll with the punches and trust that things will work themselves out. Plot twist: Nobody truly has EVERYTHING figured out. Don’t feel discouraged by what others are doing in their lives. Chances are, they use Google to figure out how to adult just as much as you do.
- You can’t beat yourself up just because you haven’t experienced any big life changes or received any recent accolades. Positive results and new opportunities come with hard work and dedication (and sometimes by chance). Use that discomfort of being stagnant to fuel your drive to put in work and push yourself to be better. Have faith that the fruit of your labor will be delicious and hard-earned. Also, don’t be afraid to ask for help or guidance if you’re feeling stuck. Sometimes, we need a kick to the patootie.
- No matter how much you try to risk manage your future, something is always going to change or catch you off guard, so don’t get too attached to one path. Have a general idea of where and what your destination is, internalize it, snap on your adventure googles and prepare for whatever crazy route life takes you on to get there. Getting started is always the scariest, but the mystery of what’s around the corner and how you’re going to handle it is the memorable and exhilarating part.
- Your successes and failures are NOT contingent on the success and failures of others. As my wise sister tells me all the time, “Be content with what you got, and don’t worry about everything else.” One of the biggest parts of growing up is accepting that there’s only so much you’re in control of. Everybody’s got a different idea of “making it”, and we bloom at different times. Use the success of others to fuel your journey. We should spend more time celebrating our victories and less time worrying about what we’ve yet to receive or accomplish. Enjoy the little things around you, a fresh cup of Balinese coffee from your last adventure abroad, peace and quiet as the sun rises, an entire box of pizza as you binge watch Law and Order: SVU, whatever floats your boat.
- Get some sleep. The world and all of it’s beautiful chaos will still be there in the morning. Getting a couple hours of rest in is 9/10 going to help you more than it hurts you.