Because I Asked For A Mahr (Dowry) I was Harassed By a Man (Imam) and His Family

I am mostly talking from my experience, but often times I see converts in particular being treated horribly for asking for a mahr (dowry). For those of you who do not know, a mahr is a dowry that goes directly to the bride, not the family.

I understand some women don’t care about it, but when a woman does, you, as a man should not refuse her God given right, because God is watching. …


Why Me and So Many Other Women are Done With Dating Apps

So, I recently have had this conversation with several women about Muslim men not being any different than a regular man. They are not more pious. They are not different in their mindset. Point is: men are men. Also, note to the wise, as I’ve seen men from all religions, bottom line is: all men are trash, until proven otherwise.

I think female muslim converts, like myself, are at a great risk with muslim men because we forget that sometimes a man is a man, no matter his…


Healing From an Abusive Relationship

Now that I have left an abusive relationship, I have been focusing on healing and finding myself again. That has been a whole process in itself. Overall, I’m trying to stay as busy as possible, focus on finding myself again, and working. Because when I am not busy, I want to participate in self-destructive behavior, cry, have panic attacks, etc. So, I choose to sleep to run from all the pain if I have nothing to stay busy. …


Why did it take me so long to leave my abusive husband?

When I was a teenager I used to say, “how could a woman ever stay with a man that abused her?” I’d continue with, “I would never stay with a man that would abuse me.” I go back now and I’m so sad that the poor teenage girl had no idea what was coming for her.

One thing that many people ask me is, “why did you take so long to leave” or “why don’t women just leave if they are being abused?” I wish it was that…


Half of Americans said it should be required by law for a married woman to change her last name: Here’s what Muslim Women Have to Say.

When I was a child and still Christian, I decided that when I would get married I wasn’t going to change my name. Call be headstrong but, many men and women didn’t like that. My grandma, one of my biggest role models never her changed her name when she married, either.

I was appalled when I recently read a 2017 study by Emily Fitzgibbons Shafer, a sociology professor at Portland State University, that more…


Don’t expect overnight success from being an indie or self-published author. You have to work for it and in this article, I am going to show you how I became a successful debut published author.

Build Your Network

Build your network way before you are published. As I was writing my debut novel, I was working as a journalist and blogger. This may have given me a leg up on things but my writing history is not what sold my books. I did. While I was writing my novel I was trying to raise my social media following and I…


“It is not about the mountain but Indigenous people’s lives. We have been silenced far too long.”

Tiaree McDonald-Agazaryan is in the middle and her sister is on the left.

If you have been following my writing for a while now, you will know that I am a Native American and a writer for the voiceless. I came across what is happening in Hawaii from facebook because unfortunately, not too many news outlets are covering it. …


I did an interview with Ameerah Nahal, a child of immigrants who resides in Chicago, Illinois. I asked to do an interview with her because I saw the growing angst that immigrants are feeling about ICE and her parents are both immigrants. Her father is from El Salvador and her mother is from Ecuador. Though they have green cards (permanent residency), there is still a large worry in their family.

A quick note and word of advice for those who are worried. If ICE does not have a warrant, based under the 4th amendment of the United States constitution, you…


A lot of people have wondered why I and other writers, editors, and designers have left MuslimGirl. I started writing for MuslimGirl in August of 2016 and stopped writing for them during the spring of 2017. My first article was about the stigma surrounding Muslim converts. I continued to write about issues pertaining to converts, as I am one myself. I also wrote on politically related issues as well as live-tweeted for MuslimGirl during election debate season.

I left MuslimGirl for many reasons. The most significant being the mean girls’ mentality that took place in the MuslimGirl message forum (Slack)…

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