Attractiveness — a tale of relativity and subjectivity

So now there’s research proving that Attractiveness grows or diminishes in relation to your company or the group around you. Common sense, one might retort.

Noteworthy, however, is how much Attractiveness is steeped in Relativity and Subjectivity. Sure you’ve heard someone say “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. But when you really stop to think about it, Attractiveness has no existence of its own, not until there is at least one viewer that deems it so. In that sense, it is judgment that gives birth to Attractiveness. I judge, therefore Attractiveness is!

Heck, if you want to be more Zen like, one might even argue that the object of attraction doesn’t exist until it is perceived to exist by an observer. It’s all in the mind, you see. But, for the sake of simplicity, let’s just assume that the object does indeed exist. Given that, the object can be Attractive, Unattractive, or one whose Attractiveness attribute is undefined. It is in the third state that the object persists in until it becomes the subject of observation, following which it often makes its way to the first or the second state.

Now imagine a world where the object gets to stay in an undefined state of Attractiveness even after being observed. Some might call it an enlightened world, free of relativity and subjectivity. Well, not only do we not live in such a world, but we also live in one where the object, or person, gets bracketed into one of two states of being or not being attractive, based on how the person/people around the subject appear. Double whammy!!

So much for Zen! Well, I better be off if I am to play my part in this world. Somewhere someone needs to be judged as Attractive, waiting for just the right company to arrive.