yeah, it’s all dumb. my brother almost went broke in his mid-20’s trying to go to all the destination weddings and engagement parties and bachelor weekends…. i did register for a few things for my upcoming wedding, but only at my mother’s insistence because she and my aunts 100% refused to take our ‘i’m not kidding, we just want you there and we have no need for house stuff’ protestations seriously and kept ragging on me daily. i didn’t make it public. we don’t have any attendants and we’re having it where we live so that most friends don’t need to travel. i really hope they just come and enjoy the day with us. that’s all we want. dancing and good food and good people and good photos.