Your Biggest Prison is the Fear Of What Other People Think
The need to be accepted can be the worst stinking poison mother nature has put deep in our little brains. I’m not talking just about being accepted by your tribe — that is natural and even desirable. I’m referring to the need of being
accepted by any and all living, breathing, barely thinking, human being that crosses our path.
No name-calling truly bites deep unless, in some dark part of us, we believe it. If we are confident enough then it is just noise.
Laurell K. Hamilton
A friend of mine was telling me just how awful she feels when her puppy dog prefers the company of the other members of her family. This would be comic if it wasn’t so tragic. The dog even prefers to be alone, rather than being with her. Poor girl.
Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.
If I were to make a list of the people I actually like, it would be a short list indeed. We are indifferent to most people, but we want to be liked by everyone. It would be a strange world if everybody liked everybody else. Liking someone is just as natural as not liking someone. Our preferences, tastes, first impressions are natural to each of us.
Trying to get universal acceptance is a waste of energy and a fruitless endeavour. We over complicate things and end up suffering. The trick, perhaps, is to accept that others have as much freedom to like us, as we have to like them.
Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.
If someone rejects my opinion, their not rejecting my whole being. If someone ignores me, I don’t disappear. I just continue being the same person no matter what other people think of me. It is just a waste of energy to worry about the
others opinions — well, within a certain limit, of course. And if someone I respect rejects me, maybe I should re-evaluate some things about myself. Live and learn, know thyself, etc.
You have no responsibility to live up to what other people think you ought to accomplish. I have no responsibility to be like they expect me to be. It’s their mistake, not my failing.
Richard P. Feynman