“I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve (or save) the world and a desire to enjoy (or savor) the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.” — E. B. White, Author

Relatable? For me, it feels like a one-line story of who I was.

All of us have dreams and aspirations, and all of us get excited planning and imagining our futures with them. But the number of people who actually end up doing all-things-planned is only a handful. Why is that so?

When I encountered this question, which was early on in my…

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Have you ever found yourself still reaching out for a chair that’s been moved across the room, because the furniture was rearranged? If so, then you are already familiar with the machinations of the subconscious mind. The subconscious embeds itself into your everyday routines to such an extent that it overrides the conscious awareness of your present surroundings. You know and remember that the chair has been shifted, but your subconscious mind has apparently not received the memo yet.

What is the subconscious mind?

The subconscious mind is the part of your brain that is responsible for smoothly running through…

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When I say success, what do you imagine? A big house, your dream job, the perfect summer vacation, or the love of your life? Whatever it is, you can have it!

You think I’m bluffing?

Let me tell you — I’m not, but it comes with a disclaimer; with consistency and discipline, you have to follow the 10 Things listed below:

1. First you create your habits, and then your habits create you

“You cannot change your future , but you can change your habits and surely your habits will change your future.” — Dr A.P.J. Abdul Kalam

I completely…

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It is easy to imagine that successful people are helped by a special force; that they have a special line of fortune on their palms which ensures their success from birth, but that’s far from the truth. All those who are successful now weren’t always so when they started and there’s no magic potion for success.

When I conceptualised my first book She Walks, She Leads, I did so as an admirer; but as I set about giving it a form and shape, it became a source of many life lessons. She Walks She Leads is an anthology of 24…

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I often sit by myself and wonder, “what is success, really?” In most parts of the world, success is defined by a 7-figure salary, a vacation house by the beach, trips to the picture-perfect locations of Europe, and a partner who looks straight out of a Vogue Cover.

But, is that all that there is to success?

A sequence from Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara comes to mind:

In the movie, we see Hrithik’s character, Arjun, planning for early retirement and attending work calls even when he is on a vacation with his friends. Only after meeting Katrina’s character, Laila, did…

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If you are reading this, you are either thinking, sure, I love myself or you’re thinking, how the hell can I love myself like I love someone else? Do I propose to myself? Do I pat my own head? Sounds like leaving my body like in some sci-fi movie and loving myself as a third person!

But our relationship with ourselves is an ever-evolving process. It changes as we change and as our surroundings change. And we can love ourselves the way we love our parents, partner, or kids. …

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“We are the stories we tell ourselves.” — Shekhar Kapur, Filmmaker

The way we live is by telling ourselves stories — stories weaved through our experiences, and the past. This, in turn, rules our current perception that eventually makes up for our future. We actually don’t live in the present at all — while thinking of the past experiences in the now, and worrying about or predicting our future, we reside in endless time forever. And thus, for us, time is not linear, but a circular spiral existing around our past and future. …

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Humans are social animals. This has been said time and again and while it’s true, in our constant need for a rich social life, we often forget to respect the fact that investing time in ourselves is also important.

In our hustling ways of the 21st century, where being busy, and our always on attitude helps us get things done, we forget to give time to one of the most important people in our life — ourselves!

Society mocks solitude. We often laugh at people who are reclusive and judge them.

It was only when we were forced to stay…

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It’s not easy to go against the normal flow of daily activities and spend some time on yourself. Just like the body has inertia, so do our minds. And you can’t train yourself to practice self-care after reading a self-help book or an online article about its importance in daily life.

Consider this; You are a busy woman. You work, and have a pet. You stay away from your parents. So you take care of your cooking and cleaning.

After watching a video on YouTube about the importance of yoga in overcoming anxiety and feeling refreshed, you decided to go…

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“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us, we were all going direct to Heaven, we were all going direct the other way.” — A Tale of Two Cities.

What we are living right now is the perfect…

Gunjan Jain

Words have power. I use mine in an effort to pause. To love. To grow. To dream little dreams we can call entirely our own. Author of She Walks, She Leads.

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