“Even though you’re a smart, independent person, involving your partner in your career change instills respect, creating a “we’re-in-this-together” bond rather than a “me-versus-you” divide. This may include discussing when you start job hunting (before or after your upcoming vacation? when the kids are back in school?), talking about how much you disclose to friends and family or designating a workspace in your shared abode. Even if you think you already know how you’ll address these topics, make sure your partner is aware that you’re thinking about them so that they can feel included.”
I think before I make any waves about career goals, life-style changes, and/or relocation plans; I better have a very good idea on how my significant other feels about such moves in general. Discussing his/her past experiences with such topics is absolutely essential if I hope to “bring him/her on board.”
The other thing I would need to do is justify why the current arrangement isn’t working while paying close attention to why s/he thinks it is. If the “is not’s” outweigh the “is’s” then the selling will go a lot smoother. If the “is’s” are winning, my strategy will take a lot more convincing.
And finally, the cost of such a move may be a deal killer. Even if my significant other and I are in complete agreement as to the changes I outline, money can be a terrible deterrent.