“If you are living suppressing your physical discomforts for the sake of business and family priorities, you are cheating yourself and driving yourself into a trap: short-term you might be getting results, long-term you are putting at danger yourself, and hence everything and everyone else dependent on you. Taking a few minutes for yourself daily will not rob your children and your projects of your time, but will ensure you are fully present, focused and full of energy for each of your commitments.”
This is sound advice as far as it goes, but why does it have to be an “I” thing and not a “we” thing? If I am cheating myself “for the sake of business and family priorities” why shouldn’t I solicit those within the priority to help me help myself. In the movie “The Intern” the intern took it upon himself to help out the CEO who was way overworked that brought about a dramatic change in her. She began to enjoy life more. And I am convinced that when staff and managers “share” the workload, everyone benefits, such that stress levels are lowered and more gets done.
Home life is a very different situation. It is not so much doing things as being fully present. When I would get home from work and the wife and kids are excited to see me; I would have to forget about upcoming deadlines and fully engage in what their day was like. I would also share my day with them in such a way that if things hadn’t been going right and I was anxious, they would understand that they were not the cause of my anxiety. By the same token, I would engage the children in physical play that both lowered my stress levels and provided entertainment for the kids.
When trying to relieve stress on my own it often led me to depressions. Dissipating my stress by sharing the workload and playing with my kids not only lifted my spirits, but cleared my mind to better deal with both.