This article goes straight to my heart because it is exactly the question I am struggling with at the moment. Everything you said is so so so resonant for me in this moment. And coming from a self-proclaimed “love avoidant” makes the delivery that much sweeter. Your post is honest, genuine, compassionate, while also acting from self-worth and self-love. That delicate balance always seems off, or somehow difficult to strike, but in this post you have done exactly that. Thank you thank you.