It’s better to be interested instead of interesting

Being Interesting or Being Interested, What’s the difference ???
This question can confuse as many of us including me. I found the answer of this question by reading the book,

“ How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie.’’ He writes:
“If you want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendships, if you want to help others at the same time as you help yourself, keep this principle in mind: Become genuinely interested in other people”
‘’You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you”
“The main idea is, If you want to become famous in your friends or in your fellows & the peoples around you, then you should take interest in them rather than becoming a piece of cake, so that the peoples would take interest in you.’’
Actually this is a best idea to become famous among people around you. You should take interest in them e.g your friends, job fellows, your neighbors, etc. You should try to ask them about their lives, health, study and as many things as you can. This generate a positive behavior of the peoples about you and they will like you. On the other hand, If you just try to talk about you, about your characteristics and achievements, then It will take a long for you to become famous among people.
‘’I was assigned a task ’’The Interested Challenge”. In this task, I had to talk with my friends, my fellows and the people around me, and asked them about their lives, daily goals and about their future goals etc. So I called many of my friends and asked them about them. First of all, I called my Friend Gulraiz. I asked him about his health, study and daily routine. We talked about an hour. He was really happy to talk with and by sharing his memories with me. Then I called my ‘’Mamu jan’’. We both shared our daily routines with each other. I asked him about their future goals, business and family. He was very happy to have a good chat with me. Then I went to my neighbor’s house. He met me with great joy. I spent 2–3 hours in his home, we talked about different matters, about their business, future goals, family and also about my own routine. Then I left his home and he said goodbye to me. At night, In arranged a family dinner outside. All my family members were happy in this regard. We spent a great time outside. I talked about my self with all of family members. I told them about my future goals and expectations. I asked all of them about their lives, daily routines, future goals and much more. They shared so many things about them.’’

In the next day, when I waked up, I was surprised to see my phone. There were lot of messages of ‘’Good Morning’’ of my friends, relatives and neighbors. They all started to take interest in me and in my life. From then, they almost daily tried to talk with me and asked me about me.Then I completely understood the point, of being interesting and being interested. I understood that, If I only tried to become interesting and had not took interest in people, then I would not become so much famous in them.

‘’Good listeners are welcomed everywhere.’’
‘’We become so busy in our lives, so that we have no time to listen about anyone. We have no time to spend with our family members, colleagues, friends, neighbors, relatives and the people around us. We did not ask them about themselves, about their daily routines, activities, problems and much more. We always want to talk about ourselves, about our achievements, future plans, problems and daily routine etc. That is why, we are not always welcomed by people. This habit make us unfamous.
So, we should try to adapt this habit of being interested. This will make us famous among the people and also make our lives full of happiness.’’
Make someone’s day and you will be happy the whole day!
Written by,
Hafiz Husnain Akhtar