What about the other women
Growing up i constantly was bombarded with women's rights. Activists. Naked women running the streets screaming “abortion is women’s Rights”
I never really thought to much of it. Okay yeah, women deserve the right to have an abortion. But as I got older, and things changed for me and I ended up pregnant at 18 with my still lover, i was very scared. I had no money, no insurance. And in the back of my head womens rights was whispering, abortion.
So i decided to make an appointment, expecting the truth from Planned Parent hood, and education. But what i received were lies.
They told me how uncommon emotional damage was. How my baby was a glob of cells, they forgot to tell me about the “internal” part of the ultra sound
(as i was having the pill instead of surgery)
The refused to show me my ultra sound image, and my husband wasn’t aloud to see it either.
We weren’t there because we didn’t want our baby. We were there because we were terrified, and every fucking day since i was 13 abortion has been a womens right and the best option.
They forgot to tell me how much i would bleed… and when i started too, i thought i would die. I sat in my bath tub of blood totally unaware of what was to come. When my baby came out, floating in the blood… I was shell shocked. I was told it looked like a fish not human but from where i was standing, although it was small… It had fingers and toes and eyes…. a tiny head on a tiny body. I was scared for my life, but they told me not to call because most people think they need to call but they really don’t.
They had no wrap around program, no counseling available just a follow up DNC if needed. I couldn’t will myself to go back to the place in which i gave 500 dollars that i didn’t have to wait for 5 hours three different times in an open waiting room, where every one knows what I’m doing. I was shamed, and heart broken. The women there were cold.
And as far as womens rights go, i think it was my right to be told to the truth of abortion before it happened. Not after.
If i had even knew the half of the truth i can say truly that i would have walked out of there from the first meeting. If they would have told me the truth about my baby, the truth about the pain the truth about the emotional damage…
I understand not every one is affected by abortions… Some even go back for a second or third but for me, every day that goes by is a struggle when i think of my child and how hasty i was and how i was lied too.
You ever heard of postpartum depression, yeah its like that i would guess.
There is no support after your abortion. Its still very much like the back alley abortions from when it was illegal, sure clean and good and all. But they arent telling the truth because the fact of the matter is they want you to get that abortion. They need your 500 dollar fast cash and they will kill your fetus for it. They will tell you its not real they will treat you like some one who has no compassion, and they will rush you through as fast as they can so you can’t make a real choice. Remember you only have weeks, days sometimes to make one of the most important decision in your life.
Women deserve the truth about abortion, not because of the women it helps, but because of the women it destroys.
Planned parent hood needs to start educating their patients. they need to become a better place.
Why do we have abortion clinics when we have hospitals?!?