In our increasingly isolated society, I am a friendly person. I smile at strangers on the street with the hope that I might give them a moment of connection. I look people in the eyes when I’m speaking with them. I take advantage of opportunities to joke or be self-deprecating because I like people to feel comfortable around me. I ask questions–real questions–because I’m genuinely interested, and I actually listen to the answers because I actually care. I’ve dedicated my entire life to understanding the human condition, and offering support and connection, because I want to reduce people’s suffering.
I’m Interested In You. That Doesn’t Mean I’m Trying To Have Sex With You.
Megan Bruneau, M.A. RCC
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Good post. Thanks for sharing it. For perspective, this part about being outgoing and friendly doesn’t just go female -> male. As a male who also does similar things for similar reasons (and who has been in a monogamous marriage for 29 years, and who, like you, also isn’t trying to have sex with random people I meet), I find that I’ve had to dial this back when the other person is female because it’s so often misattributed as an attempt at an unwanted sexual advance. That’s a shame, for the reasons you outline (increasingly isolated society, many unhappy people, etc).

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