Good post. Thanks for sharing it. For perspective, this part about being outgoing and friendly doesn’t just go female -> male. As a male who also does similar things for similar reasons (and who has been in a monogamous marriage for 29 years, and who, like you, also isn’t trying to have sex with random people I meet), I find that I’ve had to dial this back when the other person is female because it’s so often misattributed as an attempt at an unwanted sexual advance. That’s a shame, for the reasons you outline (increasingly isolated society, many unhappy people, etc).