Mateus M., I so appreciate your vulnerability here. I understand just how painful the loss of self can be. When you’re feeling low or discouraged, remember that it’s entirely possible to change these habits. Over time, maintaining a strong sense of self can become second nature. Years ago, I remember thinking to myself: “I can’t imagine a romantic future that makes me happy. I’ll always have to choose: either myself, OR my partner. But never both.” Now, years later, after a lot of therapy, coaching, and exercising the “muscle” of self-care, I can finally imagine a romantic future that nourishes me. It’s been an eye-opening experience. I wish you strength and power on your journey!