What to do when your life isn’t going the way you planned

“It starts with one thing, I don’t know why…

If you’re in your 20’s chances are you have experienced the classic — I don’t know what I’m doing with my life — slump. At some point in our lives, we are bound to either lose focus or get confused about why we started doing what we are doing. Although it’s quite normal, it’s not pretty. Uncertainty and a sense of purposelessness can leave us unnerved.

I think this happens when we are too hard on ourselves. When we force ourselves to follow the proverbial life script handed to us by the ever so considerate (I hate to use the word) ‘society’.

Here’s the thing though, you always have a choice. You can either follow the script handed to you upon arrival to this world or you can write your own. In the case of the latter, you have to brace yourself. You will not be applauded. Dissonance is rarely appreciated, it makes people uneasy and you have to be comfortable with that. And because you’re inevitably a pea in the societal pod, youhave to make yourself comfortable about not following the chalked out road.

In our struggle to follow the script, we become so encapsulated in our shells that our perspective on life is the only reality we deem to be true. It makes us stagnant, monotone — uninteresting. It’s an insult to the immense power and depth our minds possess. We have the ability to live so many lives if only we look up and look sideways.

Being the over-thinker that I am (I’m talking lists, to-do’s, calendars, memos etc.), I always had a plan. I did make some unpopular choices in my life but they didn’t make me wander far away from the plot. Graduate from college, get a job, get a masters degree, and when the right opportunity comes along, get married. However, somewhere down the line, I stretched myself too thin trying to hold on to my to-do list. I was losing my sense of purpose, draining my energies over milestones that were only in my head.

When you find yourself in this position it’s time to stop. Take a step back, turn off the GPS on life and see how many alternate, though equally valuable and rewarding, paths you can take.

Hi Y’all, Welcome to The Hamster Ball.

Modern philosophy suggests that we all live in concentric circles. Just like a hamster in a hamster ball. We can never completely break free of our little spheres so the trick is to keep expanding the circumference. So much so that we’re virtually free.

So hop on. Let’s let go of the script and be comfortable with it. Try to expand and explore the world outside our own hamster balls. OR, you can watch from the outside. I don’t mind as long as you’re sending in good vibes.

… I design this rhyme to explain in due time, all I know”