Aim to be Interested rather than Interesting

The question ‘’ interesting or being interested ‘’ took my great time to think about it in the past few days and before that I used to think, there was no major difference between these two words. But after having some research and reading a book by Dale Carnegie, I discovered some great difference between these two words.
After having some research about the question, i came to know that this question is base of our relationships. It is a key thing to promote a long life relationship between you and others or with the company. I was really amazed when I heard that this simple question had been asked by a interviewer professional to a candidate and the candidate could not answer it properly. So what should be a perfect answer for this question?
So the answer is we have to be interested rather than being interesting. This answer will not help you till you don’t know about the real difference between these two words. So being interested means that you are interested in any thing and for that you always try to ask about him/her. and being interesting is to show yourself interesting before others and for that you will always try that someone ask about you.
Now the question is why it is so important to be interested. Well I think human nature craves for attention. Openly or secretly they want attention and they want to be heard and listened by someone and they want to express their feelings and sorrow to someone on whom they can trust. In short, they want someone with them.

As Dale Carnegie writes in this book “How to Win Friends & Influence People” :
“If you want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendships, if you want to help others at the same time as you help yourself, keep this principle in mind: Become genuinely interested in other people”
This is the key thing to make friends and make good relationships. If you want to be welcomed everywhere try to be interested in others, show your interest in others. this goes same with the interviewer and the company. you have to show your interest about the interviewer and the company, talk about their social activities and what are they doing to make world better.

‘’You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you” — Dale Carnegie
I was assigned an project which was I had to ask from my family and friends about their daily routine and future goals etc. So I knocked some door of my friends by sending msgs and email and started talking about them. I didn’t discuss anything about me and when someone asked about me i simply answered them in a single word. Basically I wanted to observe their feelings and expressions when someone give them so much importance.
They shared a lot of thing with me and it was like they really wanted to have someone around them so they could lose their burden. That feeling was so amazed. At the end, one’s said: thanks for being here for me and a friend of mine said: thanks for listening my nonsense talk. :)
That texts had so many feelings I couldn’t describe at this time. We are so busy in ourselves that we forgot to make time for our friends and family. We, the Human should be more inclined towards others, we should be more interested towards others to win their hearts, to feel them good, to feel them light, so they start liking to talk to you.
“Good listeners are welcomed everywhere”
So be a good listener. Being interested in others make us special in front of their eyes and they start giving us respect and they started feeling special. And when one starts to feel special they became happy and make more progress in their works as compared to the person who feels like being ignored.
‘’You Were Born With Two Ears And One Mouth For A Reason, So we can hear twice as much as we speak’’
Make someone’s day and you will be happy the whole day!
HaMza JaVed