What is Love?

Most people view love as the magical feelings that run down the spine when you see someone you consider being intimate with. I tend to think love is more than just a glitch in the body system. Love is a mixture of several feelings. Trust, honesty, humility, courage to name a few.

If you love someone, you will be faithful to that person. That cancels an open relationship build in love. I don’t believe that open relationships demonstrate love simply because you can not love someone then love another person in the same way. No matter how people tend to deny it, Love is jealous. There is ownership in love and when several people claim the person you love, this turns into hurtful feelings. Ever wondered why most women don’t get along with their mothers in-law? It is because of the conflict of ownership. The boundary between where the mother’s love reaches and where the wife’s love starts.

Let me shoot myself in the leg and say I don’t know what love is. But what I know is, constantly and knowingly hurting someone you proclaim you love doesn’t count as love. Love is sweet but also remember that love is real. In good times and bad times, in sickness and in health, through love and thin, love remains constant.

In this century, what happens if your partner is diagnosed with a terminal illness or is involved in an accident and is rendered handicapped. What happens? Most people tend to run away. Why? What happened to the vows? What happened to until death do us part? What happened to `in sickness and in health?`. A father handed over her child to you only to visit and hear two women at each others throats! I do I did.

Let us be ambassadors of true love. I’m not perfect but I know what doesn’t constitute as love. I know that love is a commitment. I am poor with commitments and that’s why I’m scared of love. I do not want to be the cause of a young man saying, “I don’t believe in love” or, “Women are monsters”. I want to pursue love with all the commitment and self conscious I can gather.

Sex does not lead to love. Instead, it is one of the rewards of love. Do not deceive yourself that, “Let me just have sex with him, may be with time I will be able to love him back!”. This will not last!. I remember a saying that, ‘What brought you together is what keeps you together.’ If sex was the sole motivation of love, what will happen if you are pregnant or when you are sick? There is a problem. Right?

I don’t know the definition of love. I’m still learning to demonstrate love but in the mean time, I do not want to hurt anyone. So bear with me when I say I might not be able to love you back. I don’t mean that you are bad. You are not the problem. You are just a good man I want to shield from poor love practices.