Day 21: About love
This post is part of a 30 days writing challenge, inspired by these post and photo:
Love is a very complex and beautiful feeling.
Love has multiple stages, dimensions and energies than we can imagine. But in a more generic way, I thought about love from the evolution of a relationship perspective, as you can see below:
The first phase is falling in love with someone. Those magic weeks when you’re completely out of this world, can’t think of anything else but him/her, you’re feeling those butterflies in your stomach and you don’t have your usual appetite anymore. The sun in shining differently, the birds are singing more melodiously and you feel like life is just beautiful. You can’t wait to call/text/see your crush again.
The second phase, if all the things go well during the first one, and the other person is reciprocating your feelings, is the beginning of the relationship. You are that cute couple that you see on the street that can’t just get enough of kissing or hugging or giggling. You feel the luckiest person in the world, because you think you found your soulmate. You have a lot of sex, because the passion, attraction and curiosity about the other one are so intense at this stage. This may last from a couple of months to 1–2 years, depending on various factors, like: if you start living together or not, how much time do you spend together, how you’re dealing with conflicts, etc.
The third and hopefully, the last one, is the maturity phase. You already got used to your significant other. You know his/her habits, flaws, thoughts, worries. You have ups and downs but continue to support each other. You don’t feel like you have to give your best to impress your partner, in the same way as you did in the beginning, but you should still pay attention to your partner’s needs and wants and work to keep the passion awake. You start building plans together, you already know all the relatives and friends, your future plans are pretty much on the same page and you feel really comfortable, overall.
The forth and last phase — if the relationship eventually comes to an end — is the declining phase. You may grow apart, change your mind, realize that your partner is not what you want or need, your plans may be differently or you just can’t get along, because there are so many factors that can ruin a relationship. You start having conflicts, you can’t really feel the love anymore or you feel it, but it’s painful. You start thinking about breaking up, but you’re not sure if it’s the right choice. If it’s not feeling right, it should come to an end, for the good of both of you. There are many relationships that are standing in this phase years and years, which is sad. There is nothing good in that, but people and emotions are so complex, that it’s very hard to judge from the outside.
Whatever phase you may be in (or not), I hope you’re learning something good for you and you’re enjoying the ride. Remember that we all have our own pace and you’re not in a competition with anyone else.
Please let me know in the comments which phase have you experienced and which one is your favorite. I would love to hear your stories!
