Everything Happens For A Reason
As humans, I feel like we all play the “what if” game. Whether we mean to or not. Even if we don’t want it. Sometimes we can’t help it.
What if I had applied for that job?
What if I had just kept my mouth shut?
What if I had gone to bed earlier?
What if I had taken the other way there?
But the thing is, there’s no point in dwelling on it. Not just because we can’t go back and change any of it. But also because there’s a reason it played out the way it did. Everything happens for a reason.
Knowing that has led me recently to play a new version of the what if game. The “what if remix” if you will. And it goes a bit like this:
If I’m driving down the road and someone driving much slower than I am comes into my lane, slowing me down, I usually get annoyed. But more recentlty, I’ve started looking at it this way. What if they didn’t slow me down? What if I would have continued going to go that speed and it led to a crash? But since that person came in front of me and slowed me down a bit, it helped avoid that. Or, what if it would have led to me speeding past a police officer and they pulled me over and I got a speeding ticket?
Sometimes life really bites. And when that happens, it’s really hard to feel thankful for what is happening. And it’s easy to fall down the “what if” rabbit hole. But more recently, I’ve found that taking a different look at it helps. Reminding myself that it’s happening for a reason. It’s not always easy, but when you remind yourself that it could be wrote, it alleviates the sting. Even if just a little.
So the “ what if” game doesn’t have to be toxic. You just have to play it the right way. Remind yourself that there’s a reason it is all playing out that way for a reason. And in time, you might even be thankful for the bad times, because it brought you greater good.