What They Don’t Tell You About Falling in Love Overseas

For starters, you’ll have to spend $10k on a visa

Hannah Olivia
4 min readJul 26, 2023
A photo of me and my boyfriend overseas

I have a bone to pick with Elizabeth Gilbert. When I saw the movie Eat Pray Love, I was like, “Yes, that’s the answer to all my problems. I need to go travelling for nine months so I can meet the love of my life.” I was 34. I had been single for nine years. I was lonely. In fact, I was so lonely that I was jealous of Ally and Jack in A Star Is Born. When Bradley Cooper pissed himself next to Lady Gaga on stage, I was like, “I want what they have.”

So, overseas I went. I’m from Australia and our international borders were closed until November 2021. I was on one of the first flights outta there. Was I desperate? Maybe. But aren’t we all a little desperate for connection? I recently watched one of those heinous red pill videos on YouTube where the guy was saying, “Men don’t want women of 35, blah, blah, blah,” and I clicked on the comments and someone had written, “Men and women just want connection.” The comment had more likes than the video BECAUSE IT’S TRUE. We want connection. But for me, that fun-lovin’, city-livin’ life just wasn’t cutting it. I needed some eat, pray and lovin’.

I want to say I went travelling and fell in love with myself, blah, blah, blah, but I didn’t. I met a guy. A really, really nice one. We…