Your Life isn’t a Layered Cake; it Should Be a Gently Mixed Up Salad

Have you ever felt your stomach do flips? That your heart is running a marathon? Like you are sinking into an abyss of adrenalin and anxiety? Stress is a horrible thing, and almost everyone has experienced it as least once; most over hundreds — no — thousands of times. When we look for a way to relieve this gut wrenching feeling we seek help — mostly from the internet of course, but these sources of advice aren’t the best.

These sources tell us that in order to relieve stress we should try to be organized, exercise, make friends, plan activities and that we should work on our time management skills. These recommendations can be helpful but also may actually cause stress to many individuals.

So what is the correct way to relieve stress? The one way that helps everyone with their stress? Have you ever thought that perhaps procrastination is the key?

Now before you jump at me screaming, have you ever thought about why you start to procrastinate? We procrastinate because we are trying to “feel good” by avoiding things we dislike and hate — things that are stressing us out. Procrastination is the way our bodies naturally try to “get rid” of stress; we are trying to run away from it.

In a survey posted in 2016, a student having only one day to complete an assignment, no matter how long they procrastinated, wouldn’t actually affect their grade; unless they didn’t procrastinate at all, in those cases, they actually did worse than those that waited an hour or so to start.

The reason for this is that most homework assignments that are due the next day are meant to take about an hour to complete, which is why there wasn’t any real difference between those that procrastinated till the day of and those that started it a couple of hours or so after it was assigned — those students completed the homework in the estimated time it should take for them to complete it. The reason people believe that procrastination badly effects their achievements is that they rush it. They try completing an assignment that should take at least 23 hours of constant effort to complete, in a 16-hour timeframe — and they don’t take any break when doing so — causing them to have a harder time focusing on the subject and learning less.

You see, we need a short period of procrastination in order for us to do our best. The optimum way the brain learn things is to actually take short breaks in between. This is commonly called the “spacing effect” when it’s in use for studying.

There are so many ways one can procrastinate — all of them work. However, you have to keep the time in mind — this is where the good advice we received from the so-called experts on the internet — Time Management helps. You should plan to do other things during the time you are doing work — for example if you have an assignment that is supposed to take an hour, split it into fifteen minutes increments, and in-between do something else — like reading the newspaper.

You all might have just let out a grown at the word “newspaper,” but newspapers are full of things like events; events that you could plan to go to and have fun at. Perhaps go to an exhibit, play or party for an hour or two, and then get back to work?

You could also use Facebook to help you find things to do — liking pages or joining groups that have information about things you like. Facebook also has an event system, that if someone your friends with says they are going to an event, they’ll let you know — adding even more possibilities.

Now, with all of these fun things to do; keep in mind that to manage your time correctly — don’t get all your work done, then find something to do. Nor should you first find and complete some fun activities, before settling down and cracking down on your work. You should mix the activities together. Your life isn’t a layered cake; it should be a gently mixed up sala