A case for prosaic love

There are two kinds of love. A ‘Romantic Love’: the one you find in romantic novels and movies, the one whose best example is Romeo and Juliet. The one which is spontaneous, dramatic, adventurous and unpredictable. The one in which people ‘fall’ in love. The phrase falling in love, itself indicates the unpredictability and inefficacy of this type of love. Since its involuntary, this type of love is bound to fade over-time unless it is evolved. Being stuck in this type of love is a major reason for unsatisfactory and ephemeral relationships.

The second type of love is prosaic love, which people consider as boring and bland love. Unlike the previous kind, this type of love is not full of adventures and drama. It is also not involuntary. So, it requires effort from both parties. It takes time to mature and evolve. This effort and time help to develop a strong foundation. So, it does not fade away easily. In this type of love, partners are comfortable with each other and talking/texting does not induce anxiety. All the minor mistakes are forgotten and forgiven. This results in more fulfilling and long-lasting relationships.

It is not that one love is better than the other, but giving importance of only one kind can be disastrous. The pleasure-seeking adventurous love can be enjoyed during youth but is it not ideal for developing long-term relationship? Long-term relationships require deliberate efforts, where one need to understand partner’s strengths, weaknesses, likes and dislikes. Prosaic love asks for sacrifices and adjustments. Even if this love is not a starting point, it should be an ending point for the relationships.