How the Body Effects the Mind — The Felt Sense
Well, we all are great thinkers. I don’t care who you are, but if you’ve got a brain in your head you’re capable of making decisions. Sometimes those decisions can be good and sometimes they can be bad, but one thing is for sure, we always make the best decisions with what we know how. We collect information through our senses, we process them through our filter of the world (our beliefs), and we make decisions based on that. It is this idea that shows us that our mind is capable of making perfect decisions, so that is never the issue. Sometimes we make bad choices based on what information we decide to collect and what questions we ask ourselves.
This would be really good if this was the entire story.

The truth is, we have a second mind in us that we often forget about. A lot of people call this intuition, but from now on we are going to call it your Felt Sense. Your Felt Sense is this basically a second mode of thinking, or in this case “feeling” for a situation. You see, just as much as our mind can store beliefs in and ideas about the world, our body does something similar. You can experience this now just by thinking of something that makes you feel a little bit turned on, and feel where in your body you feel it. Now think of something that was a bad choice, most people experience a shift in sensations in your chest for this one.
You see, our body is just constantly full of sensations. Sensations that range from just a tingling in your hands to something deeper like a deep fear about something. Understanding this and being able to tap into your Felt Sense is so important because when you do it, you’re going to be able to make new and amazing decisions, ESPECIALLY when it comes to relationships.
You see, the mind and the body are often like two sides of the same coin. It’s a really beautiful thing. Our thoughts and beliefs affect the way we FEEL about a person, and this can be a negative thought or feeling. Similarly, in reverse, our feelings can create new thoughts. If you’ve ever had food poisoning and walked by that restaurant later onwards and felt that feeling of sickness, then this is your body remembering that feeling.
So, how do you know if you can trust your body or your mind? Let’s dive into this a little bit deeper.
There’s an ancient Indian word that describes these body memories very clearly. The word is “Sankara” which roughly translates to “reaction.”
You see, in our life, our body reacts to the world around us, like our mind does. There are three kinds of reactions that our body goes through. The first is like a line drawn through water, it simply fades away as the water moves and shifts. The second is like a line drawn in sand. It might stay there for a little while, but soon the tides of the sea will wash it away. The third is like a line drawn through rock. In order for it to be drawn, it has to be cut deep, and can often last generations. Like our mind, our body doesn’t always remember all of these reactions. Eventually, through time, only the deepest ones remain.
So how can you trust your body? When should you? Well, this is an interesting one, because, in some situations, our mind and our body do not agree, which creates what some people call “Cognitive Dissonance” where our body tells you to do one thing and your mind tells you to do another. If you’ve ever been in a situation where you’ve REALLY WANTED TO TEXT THE GUY SOONER, but another part of you tells you not to? THIS IS IT.
At the end of the day, there’s always one major question to ask yourself. What is your intent?
You see, there is no REAL good or bad in this world, there is always “does it serve you?” Some people might disagree, but when we look at it from the day to day nuance of life, there is only ever the question, “does this particular choice serve me as a person to get me to where I want to go?”
“Does texting him this sooner get me where I want to go?”
Look, it’s hard to answer questions like that, because if you don’t know logically, then you won’t know right? Part of the process is learning how to make mistakes which leads to understanding situations for what it is. If you’re ever feeling like something is stopping you and you feel like you’re breaking your head over a situation, we can simply diagnose it as follows:
- Either your mind is right and your body wants to stop you because of bad experiences OR
- Your BODY is right and your mind logically think it makes no sense.
So, what can you do in this situation? The best way is to heal. If we were working together, I would teach you my Felt-Sense Meditation that helps unravel the past experiences and fears and your thoughts so you can operate at the level that you want to. If you’re interested in that, you can email me at harvey@gethimhooked.com. Another solution is to try something, trust ONE of your senses, and dive straight into the situation. The most important thing with any problem is to get “feedback.” Without feedback, you do not know which direction you’re going in.
If you text him and he doesn’t reply? THAT’S YOUR FEEDBACK. What you sent him wasn’t attractive to him, so change what or how you said it. Problem solved.
Seriously though, take some time to focus on your feelings a bit more. The world would be a better place if we were all a bit more clearer.