Do this and you will be welcome Everywhere
Today I would like to share one of my readings on “ Do this and you’ll be welcome anywhere” by Dale Carnegie.
Dale Harbison Carnegie was an American writer and lecturer, and the developer of famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills. He wrote a book “How to Win Friends & Influence People” which has many chapters, in the first chapter he reveals a secret to winning others heart. He said becoming genuinely interested in someone will always help you develop a real friendship with them. He shared amazing examples to support his thoughts regarding being interested in someone and how can that makes someone like you a lot even if you have many flaws. According to Charles Dickinson.
“Effort is the best indicator of Interest”
Without making an effort, no one is going to love you. When someone really cares about you, they will make an effort, not an excuse. Making friends and maintaining friendships are two different things. You have to spend energy and care for others. No one will like you if you are selfish.
I have applied this theory of Dale Harbison Carnegie in my life to check whether it’s true or these are just words, but I have got an amazing result, a positive one which I am going to explain now.
We all have some family relatives, friends, classmates, teachers or any other person in your life where you haven’t talked that much or you once did and now for any reason, there is a missing connection. Have you ever thought why did they haven’t tried to contact you in the first place? Because you might have stopped paying interest in them or you never did.
So I started this challenge by talking with some unknown person and with some of my friends. After that I asked about his college life then he talked with me like I am his old friend which he met after many years, I just started giving more attention towards him and throughout discussion I just asked questions, he gave answers friendly. The person who was unknown to me was senior to me so he also started career counselling of mine and gave very helpful advice. The most interesting thing is that he offered me a cup of tea which I accepted immediately. We had enjoyed a lot during that time.
I had a friend at my college and he was my best friend. We enjoyed those 2 years together having enjoyed, studied, cherished and making memories. But unfortunately, we didn’t have the same university. He went Germany to pursue his higher education. We used to talk sometimes in beginning but couldn’t maintain it because of our priorities.The last monday he was there and we talked a lot about what he is doing there and about his career to make him feel special. We also had lunch together and enjoyed the whole time.
After that I reached one of amal fellows to whom I never talked before, so I think of making new friends in amal and take it as a challenge so I messaged one of my batch mates as she needs some sort of help after that I was asked about her and she started telling me about her. So I’m interested in talking with her as she likes anime as well as manga so I also take interest because I also have little interest in anime. She suggested me a season “Death Note” of anime which is in Japanese language and she helps me in understanding. Due to that l started to learn Japanese language so I learn counting from 1 to 10 in Japanese as well as competed the season with in two days.
So the best way to win other hearts is give attention to them so they influenced by you as a famous quote by Dale Carnegie
“ The only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what he wants and show him how to get it”.
This book is very impressive so I bought it and start learning more things that influence others.
