Yes and no.
The skill here is also to learn that many people have feelings and are affected negatively by the actions of others, and sometimes don’t even connect the dots. That people experience this everyday and feel helpless to say “no,” even if that helplessness is not based in fact. There could be many reasons for this: trauma or a simple difference in values, beliefs, and processes.
When depressed (which often involves ruminating), one might argue that the skill is to “stop being depressed.” It’s true, but also difficult to put into practice. Comments like these also often hurt more than they help.
I appreciate the read, and the opinion! But you’re missing the point if you think there’s one way to move through life.