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3 Warning Signs That You Are A Victim Of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)

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If you are a victim of someone who has NPD, you might not even be aware. People with narcissistic personality disorder have a way of being able to control their victims through any means necessary. More often than not, people who are victims of narcissistic personality disorder believe that they are the root cause of the problem rather than the person displaying the abusive behavior.

A narcissistic person will have an over exaggerated sense of confidence and importance in the world. They require much attention from their victims and from people in general in order to feel good about themselves. Yet, they believe they are better than the people they seek attention from. They have no care of others feelings and in fact, the need for people is very much geared towards their own personal gain.

If you are suffering at the hands of a narcissistic personality, it is very important that you test this so that you can break free from them. The narcissistic person will destroy you in more ways than one. They will ruin your self-confidence, make you feel crazy, and maybe even drive you crazy.

Here are some warning signs that you are a victim of NPD.

1. You are constantly put in places of severe yet oftentimes unnecessary hardship.

Narcissists love to create problems that don’t exist. They take pleasure in finding your breaking point, sometimes admittedly so. You feel like you must put yourself in hardship, sometimes this includes your family or children because they make you feel like if you don’t your world will crash around you. And in some situations, it will. Because if you don’t do what the narcissist wants you to do, they might seek out to destroy your reputation regardless of all that you have done for them.

2. You will do whatever it takes to please the abuser.

Your relationship with the someone who has narcissistic personality disorder may have begun by them building you up, lifting you up, even putting you in a place of power and happiness. They may claim they are able to give you your deepest desires. Especially when it comes to your professional goals. However, over time all this becomes about them. They only build you up so you could serve them better. You only exist to them as relating to their world. You also only exist to them because of what you can offer them and never for what they can offer you. If they show generosity to you, you will be forever in their debt because true generosity does not exist for them. They treat you and possibly even view you as their slave. Some of them might even be bold enough to reiterate that to you over and over again until you actually believe it’s true.

3. No one is as convincing to you as this person is.

When you finally work up enough courage to leave the relationship with the narcissist behind, they will do whatever it takes to reel you back in and most of the time they will because they are so convincing. They will apologize. They will threaten. A narcissist will make you feel like the most important person in the world and tell you they have changed. They have a hold on your emotions and they will remind you that you are there’s. You belong together, you can do great things together. Sometimes, they will treat you like a partner. Give you gifts, try to make up for everything they put you through. Give you the affection they’ve held back from you that you’ve so desperately craved all of this time. A narcissist will do whatever it takes to reel you back in and most of the time they will because they are so convincing. They will apologize and they will threaten. This person will make you feel like the most important person in the world and tell you they changed. They have a hold on your emotions and they will remind you that you belong to them.

The sad truth is that a narcissist will ruin not just your self-worth, but if they can they will take away your sense of self completely to the point where without them, you don’t even know who you are.

In order to break free, you must come to a place of acceptance. You must realize that this person will never change and the abuse will go on forever if you allow it. If you are being victimized by a narcissist, it’s time to let go and move on!

Thank you for stopping in for a read. ~Heidi

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Original article published on LoveWideOpen.com on August 27, 2018