Who would you not want to see in Heaven?
A friend of mine told me about some hard feelings he was having with his new in-laws early in his marriage; especially his father-in-law. He said that he couldn’t reconcile with some of the insensitive personality quirks that that his father-in-law had. He found himself building fully justified resentments and being angry with him for what they were doing and what they had done. My friend told me that one day while sitting in the celestial room in the LDS temple that he started to people watch and ponder who would he expect to see in Heaven or not see? (The celestial room is symbolic of Heaven on Earth to the LDS faith.) A thought came to him. “What if my father-in-law was in here with me right now or in Heaven? Would I resent him for making it to Heaven? or worse, would he make it to Heaven and not me because I was still holding resentments for him?” My friend had the deep realization that if his father-in-law made it to Heaven and he didn’t then it would be his own fault and not the fault of his father-in-law. He grew more aware of his own sins and accountability in building his own future. He engaged in the miracle of perspective. In my work in addiction recovery that blame, resentments and shame all tear down self-worth; while conversely accountability, making amends, and healthy guilt bring a manner of happiness to life. It’s when my clients decide to take accountability for their lives and I mean really take 100% accountability that they start down a long-term path of recovery. I find this true in my own life. I’m sorry to all those that I’ve offended or hurt, I’m doing the best to make amends and forgive others as well as myself. I’m seeking to love and uplift through accountability rather than to hate and destroy through blame. I invite anyone reading this to take a look at your own accountability. Do you blame others for problems big or small? Do you justify reasons to keep your bad habits and patterns? Do you keep yourself so busy that you don’t actually take time to reflect about whether you are happy or not? Do you hold grudges? Do you know why you are here or what purpose your life has? Take accountability for your life. “Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.” — Robert Louis Stevenson (1850–1894). Find your purpose in good things and own your life before it’s passed you bye, take your chair at the table of consequence, that at the very least you don’t keep yourself out of Heaven.
Moroni in The S.F.Awakening