…er things — Facebook, Snapchat, Netflix, WhatsApp — the year changes, the outcome remains the same. Instead of learning to control our mood with serotonin, or what it feels like to be loved with oxytocin, we go on a dopamine-only diet. Gambling, alcohol, sex, most addicts find their drugs as teens. So did we, it just didn’t have the label on it.
When you look at your relationship overall, it should bring you way more happiness than pain. Like way way more. Not all the time and not every moment and not every day or even every week or sometimes even for a whole month straight, in real bad times. Because — especially if you’re in it for the long haul — y’all are going to hit some shit, and you have to be fair about that.