The Surprising Power of Kindness

Heather K. Duff
Oct 7 · 2 min read

Daily Wise: Do not let kindness and truth leave you; Bind them around your neck, Write them on the tablet of your heart… — Proverbs 3:3 NASB

Merriam-Webster Definition of KIND: 1 a : of a sympathetic or helpful nature; b : of a forbearing nature : GENTLE


We’ve let kindness leave us.

We value success.
We value independence. (Success wins us this.)
We value achievement.
We value power.

Sure, there is a lot of talk about the abuse of power — but still, we value it. We want power so we can make changes. The changes we want to see.

I’m speaking culturally, here. En masse. And before you disagree, think about what surprises you, and what doesn’t.

What Surprises Us?

Are you ever surprised to see headlines of success? Are you surprised that powerful people have large followings? Are you surprised when achievements are lauded?

I’m not saying we shouldn’t celebrate success or honor achievement. We should. My point is, we are not surprised by these things because they are common. Bookstores are saturated with books on how to succeed, and books that tell the stories of heroic achievement.

We flock to the successful, and this surprises no one.

But kindness…kindness surprises us.

We are surprised by the kindness of strangers.

We are even surprised by the kindness of loved ones.

We’ve left kindness behind because its value was downgraded. Other shinier things were put in its place. But who did that? Who decided kindness was of a lesser value than success?

It wasn’t me. And I don’t think it was you. Because you value kindness too, don’t you?

The Truth About Kindness

Kindness is success. It is succeeding as a caring person. It means you’ve grown to maturity and realized everything isn’t about you. Kindness means you’ve succeeded in recognizing the others around you.

Kindness is independence. You aren’t following the crowd anymore when you follow the wisdom of kindness. Kindness is a choice you make. And you can make it.

Kindness is achievement. To show kindness means you had the thought of doing good, and you did something about it. Just think of what you might achieve if kindness was the goal?

And kindness is power. It intervenes. It impacts. It rescues. It consoles. It loves. It bandages wounds. It wipes tears. It sits beside another without having to say a word. It cooks meals and mows grass and carries groceries to the car and fixes broken toys and all the while it changes two lives — the giver and the receiver.

Kindness changes us for the better. This isn’t always true of success or independence or achievement or power.

Oh, I think kindness is the shinier thing, don’t you?

Then let it shine. Let it shine.


Learn more about my books and podcast at heatherkduff.com.

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