I agree and sometimes it can be really hard to see that. The notion I always hold on to is “DON’T LET THOSE FUCKERS WIN!” cuz i know there is lots of messaging and ideas out there that tell me i should just kill myself. I can see everywhere around me that queer fat women are significantly less visible in vast majorities of media, seats of power, management, etc. I was struggling with suicidal ideations last week (and chronically for the past 20 years and likely for the rest of my life) because I don’t feel like I have any other options. As a fat queer woman (and this becomes even more so for POC, trans, disabled, etc.) my options for everything from work to dating partners is limited. My experience in this life is tempered by those things. And I’m getting to a point where I can’t tell if my options are *actually* limited or if my mindset and world view have been colored by oppression so much so that I’ve given up on trying. It might be a little of both. What I do know is that when I look up to the top members of the place where I work I see few women and smaller body sizes. The folks I see where I work struggling to find new or different work are immigrants where English is not their first language or minorities. There is something there that is not being addressed. And what happens when you have lived your life with the options that are vastly less than what is offered to everyone else? How does that impact your perspective? When we receive messaging that the only viable way to contribute to society is to be a worker, but we don’t make room for or equip all bodies to be successful, then we have a problem. As I think Kitty points out, we emphasize radical self reliance and part of that is the privilege that comes with being an able-bodied, neurotypical, white, cisgender, heterosexual, etc. person.