They may not have any overt desire to control their partner and may not want them to end the relationship with their metamour — but they want to stop being neglected and ignored. So what do you do? Many people might try re-enforcing those boundaries and rules, maybe even adding more rules on to try and regain a sense of stability that has been lost.
Useless Polyam Advice: Jealousy vs. Fear
Lola Phoenix
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This happened to me and my response was to create more space to figure things out. I asked for a 3 month break while they settled their new relationship stuff. Because they couldn’t see any kind of dating/relationship future with me, we broke up. I like the idea of creating more space, rather than limiting space and creating rules/barriers. Sometimes it doesn’t go the way you want it to go though, and that sucks.

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