Corporate Judo & Deflection.
Day 11 — Book Writing/Birthday Month
A colleague said to me once that
I had mastered the art of corporate judo.
I don’t think I’ve mastered it but
I certainly have a new perspective on
How to use it.
I often do the Jedi mind trick wave
At people, not to be funny
But to really truly get my way.
It works some times.
Judo uses the forces of balance, power,
and movement to attempt to subdue the other person.
In business, there are slippery slopes
And maneuvering that take precision.
If you typically take on other people’s work,
Tasks, etc… try a little silence on for size.
You don’t have to take on other people’s
Bullshit or work or tasks if no one else steps up.
Cállate la boca, silencio, por favor.
The past two days, after a weekend
Of clearing and letting things go.
and that gorgeous Capricorn thunder moon
out in the desert .
Along with enjoying the connection of a new
Person in my life who recently
Lit a spark in me.
I’ve decided to put up my dukes.
To protect myself
I realize that I often take on other people’s
Energy and mood and tasks.
Combating that is exhausting.
And we all have to do it every day.
All the time.
Without realizing it.
So I put up my hands yesterday to
block A LOT of negativity, stress,
And other people’s bad energy.
And when I did, it was so nice.
I just stayed calm, deflecting.
Bobbing and weaving,
ducking out of the way.
So when my credit card was stolen,
When QuickBooks decided to not
Accept payment for a huge invoice.
When I didn’t let someone get me all
Riled up about things.
I made a choice about how I react
And about boundaries.
The healer I saw this weekend, looked me
Dead in the eye after sitting with me for a spell
And said Heather, this is absolutely fuckery
and we need to clear the chompers of your energy.
Oh they like you so much, let’s protect you.
I said, yes please, let’s do it.
So, I say to you. Be mindful
Of taking on other people’s bullshit.
They want you to whether
It is unconscious or not.
Shared sorrow, stress, sadness.
Put your hands up, (like I like to do)
This time not for exultation
But for protection, rejection, and deflection.
You are the only one that can block that stuff.
It’s real and palpable.
(and I’m not even talking all the world/political stuff).
And also stop forcing bad stuff on others.
Don’t be a negative pusher.
As my writing coach Rachel says,
let it be easy.
And as a bad ass drag queen on the Lower East Side
Told me long ago, girrrrrrl, protect your queendom,
protect the realm.
And as I say put up your dukes.
Your peace of mind is worth it.
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Written by Head Maven & CEO, Heather Newman, Creative Maven
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