How to smother a narcissist (and why we should).
How to smother a narcissist.
A fire burns because of fuel and oxygen. Ignition.
Time, energy, love, attention are all fuel to the narcissist fire.
To put out that fire, use these simple steps:
(And I know they are not easy)
Don’t let them push your buttons.
They love that.
No reaction can be a fire extinguisher.
No checking relentlessly.
Let them go.
Use your time, love, energy, ratings, attention and goodness
On you and the people who are NOT
Put up boundaries.
You choose who to give your
Energy, Attention and
A narcissist will not change
They will not relent until
You stop fanning the flames.
Your real partners, friends, family, lovers, colleagues
Will give to you as much as you give to them.
Most narcissists have no conception
That they are one.
They are simply clueless.
And probably the brightest
Star in your sky.
Ask about you
Don’t fuck with you
Don’t make you wait.
I am so sick of seeing people in my life
Continuously deal with these
The freedom that comes from
Releasing yourself from their
Is so very powerful.
Be it the person closest to you
Or someone in power
This extinguishing act IS the ultimate move
In loving yourself
Which in turn
Makes our entire world better.
I’m not saying roll over
Speak your mind.
But stop falling
Into the traps.
Talk the behavior through
With people you trust
If they say “what the hell”
Then you know.
I ask every group of women
I speak to at conferences
If they have a narcissist in their lives
Make them raise
It’s staggering to see the sea of hands.
There are lady narcissists too so it is equal
The thing is, is that you get one life.
Do not let anyone drive you bananas.
Do not let anyone tell you lies about yourself.
Start with one glass of water.
You do not belong to anyone
There is no “mine”
You are yours.
Or we are ours because
We choose to connect,
We give our love to others
But keep ourselves ours
Without force or fear.
We all have our egos
We all want to be loved and liked
Some need the spotlight more than others
But we all deserve to be treated
Kindness and respect.
And never surrender.
A moment of pause
Can change your (the) world.
Smother the fire
And fan your own flame
I want to see you shine.
And get the fuck away from these people.
The only phoenix to rise from this ash darling,
Smother the narcissists.
Fan your flame.
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Written by Head Maven & CEO, Heather Newman, Creative Maven
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