While in a fight, I thought not being sorry and hearing it from the other person endowed me with power. It elevated my self worth. It sounds completely silly but I felt that way. I recently read an article that linked being apologetic to a person’s personality type. I am not quite sure whether it referred to a heartfelt apology or merely uttering the words ‘I am sorry’. It claimed that people who apologized more often were honest and humble. It does not seem to be a flaw. It is rather a personality trait I would not be ashamed of. Yet I promised myself to think twice before being sorry. I have been sorry when I was aware I was not at fault. I started using it as a tool to make things right. It somehow felt liberating to say sorry and watch everything fall into place.
It was a quick fix and an easy solution to let go of grudges, bury my mistakes and mend relationships.
I have also known people who never tend to apologize under any circumstance. They are brimming with confidence for always being right and never own up to their wrongdoings. That comes off as haughty and rude.
Henceforth I choose to say sorry only when I mean it and is absolutely necessary.