An Interview With Heidi Sander — Journals provide a personal space to capture ideas and practice the technical skills of expressing what’s on your mind. It takes focus and effort to communicate clearly and concisely on the page. …

An Interview With Heidi Sander — To be sad. To sit in the memories. To desperately miss your loved one. To laugh. To find joy. To feel broken. To feel happy. To want to talk about it. To not want to talk about it. All of this is okay! For us, as a donor family, we…

An Interview With Heidi Sander — Allow yourself to be vulnerable with someone. There is a beautiful Swedish proverb that says, “Grief shared is grief halved. Joy shared is joy doubled.” In other words, sharing our grief with another lets them help us hold it and it can become less heavy. The world seems to be…

An Interview With Heidi Sander — Pay attention to whatever you have to be grateful for or happy about. At the end of the day when my children were little, I used to say, “OK, let’s think of three things that we’re happy about, that we’re really glad that happened today, or that we’re grateful for.”…

An Interview With Heidi Sander — Don’t expect perfection. No one is perfect. God created us with a tremendous potential with the purpose in life in reaching that potential. That’s literally the reason for existence — making ourselves and the world around us better each day. …

An Interview With Heidi Sander — Patience. Everything feels different after a major life challenge. Everything. Heck, brushing your teeth can feel strange. Being OK with yourself for those moments when you feel stuck or lost can make it easier. …

An Interview With Heidi Sander — … Love of language. If your poetry isn’t language-based, language-brazen, anarchic and fierce, in some way, it’s probably not poetry or not very good poetry . . . And what rough beast, its hour come round at last/ Slouches towards Bethlehem to be born? …

An Interview With Heidi Sander — Practice self-care: I did not do this, and it was a mistake. For the past thirty years I was either caring for my students, my children and eventually my mother. I had forgotten how to care for myself. I’ve always been a caregiver, worrying about everyone other than me. …

An Interview With Heidi Sander — Allow yourself to feel your emotions. This is the time to feel whatever comes up without judging yourself. There’s no right or wrong way. Just as there’s no defined timeframe for processing loss & grief. Having therapeutic support to help you organise our thoughts can really help especially if you…