Eros/Power in London

Begin of November I have been to London for a workshop, related to the book by Hilary Bradbury and William Torbert. I was so looking forward to this workshop since the last few weeks. It felt like everything turned out to my favor to be able to come here. I earned good money the month before to pay the flight and AirBnB, got a scholarship for the course, and I had time to go to London for some extra days, as I never have been to the UK before. The workshop seemed very important for my work, as I am currently writing on a book about a similar topic. I had to be there, so my intention was strong.

When I arrived at my AirBnB the friendly host asked me for the purpose of my visit to London, so I told her about the workshop. She was immediately interested and also was hooked on the topic of my writings as I mentioned my book. So we had a short conversation about Eros/Power and the dynamics of relations in organizations, even before she showed me my room, where I would stay for the next four nights.

As I just started to read the book Eros/Power, Love in the Spirit of Inquiry, some days before my arrival, and maybe because of my lack of proper English, I did not understand exactly the meaning of the slash in the title. I was separating Eros and Power as two different energies. Eros as a form of love and attraction, and power more as a ruling or dictating force. I was interested in the dynamics between this forces, but was not aware that it means also the power that the unity of both can have on our relations, either intimate, platonic, or professional. So I was pleasantly surprised by finally comprehending the meaning after reading the first chapters of the book, and in the first few hours of the workshop.

I read first about the book and the workshops based on it in an article on Enlivening Edge and was immediately interested to join one as soon as possible. Standing in the room with the two facilitators of the first day, Heidi Gutekunst and Dana Carman, I felt so proud, that I have managed to come here.

Could working with Eros even be a catalyst for moving from Teal to Turquoise?

The hype around the Teal organizations just started less then a year ago with the publication of Fredrick Laloux‘s book Reinventing Organizations, and many people who never have heard about developmental stages before, are still in the process of understanding what Teal means. With that said, I also see some obstacles in the unfolding of Teal, as many people who just discovered it, come out from an Orange, rational and success-driven, business mindset, sometimes burned out or discouraged by the working environments they have been for many years, and which are still in a traditional or modern operation. I hear people speaking about Teal as it was just a new way of motivating employees, and to be more productive and efficient, so the company can make more revenue. Yes, this might and will happen, but it shouldn’t be the main motivation of being an Teal organization.

Bringing in Eros as the primary life force that drives evolution, raising the dialogue about it and bringing in practices to the workplaces to embody this force in us, can lead to more wholeness as new governance models like Holacracy promote.

Teal is a meme which focuses more on an intellectual understanding of the emerging form of being, Turquoise is the next stage where groups and collective practices are more based on direct experience. Speaking of experience leads me back to the Eros/Power workshop. Reading the book can help to understand how it came to it, and what the concept behind Eros/Power is, participating in a workshop, brings that down into the body, and to the lower energy centers where Eros is first experienced when it awakens in us.

One exercise to start with, is bringing the focus of awareness down to the belly and the genitals. Some speak about this areas of Sakral and Base Chakras, or Hara respectively the lower Dantian in Chinese traditions, the centers or energy fields where our motivation and power is generated. Being aware what’s going on there in any situation, and especially in relation to other human beings, is crucial to understand some of our life’s decisions, where we are drawn to, or what turns us down. By knowing what is going on in the lower floors of our own human office tower, and bringing this important informations up to the level of the compassion department, the heart, and with their confirmation further to the upper floors and in the board room, we might get a broader understanding of the wholeness of an organization as we ever have had.

Through inquiry, internally oneself and with other people in small groups, it is possible to get more aware of the activities in the lower levels of the body, and of the impact of relating to each other. It goes beyond mindfulness, as it supports a collective understanding of group dynamics and further in seeing ways of a more constructive and co-creative collaboration.