Lord, what a mess. Men are so, so self-centered, it oozes from every thought they have about themselves. The tired narrative of femininity, an artificial, oppressive construct created by men to force women into a decorative, subordinate role being inherent to womanhood is just the start. I guess I’m not a woman anymore because I don’t see makeup as central to my gender, lmfao.

You want to talk about when being close to something privileges your opinion and when it invalidates it? Okay. People who are groomed from birth into femininity, whether they like/want it or not, know more about it than you do. The “privilege” to explore body hair? Are you kidding me? We’re privileged now for being forced to invest time and energy into unnecessary beauty rituals or risk disgust and social ostracizing? Excuse me for not crying you a river here. And excuse me for having a hard time believing that wanting to engage in body hair removal trends less than 100 years old is a genuine sign of being female, lol.

Not even gonna touch on the clear, slap-you-in-the-face maleness that’s evident in any of your interactions with “cisfeminists” where you insist on making everything about you, willfully ignoring any issues that feminists are trying to talk about that pertains to their struggles against men as a class and instead crying that you’re not front and center in every discussion.

Every post I read like this just proves to me that men, even those who spend decades pretending to listen to women, still just see us as obstacles to their identity. We’re just being bitchy when we take issue with how entitled they feel to our experiences, because how dare a woman tell a man there’s something he just can’t experience. Well, you can’t. I’m not a woman because of my affinity for any of the trappings of femininity, I’m a woman because I was born in a female body and have had to struggle ever since against society and myself to regain my right to be a person instead of an object. It’s not an identity, it’s a history, which it HAS to be in order for feminism to address the ways women are marginalized. Masculinity hurts men but it is not the responsibility of women to center men who are hurt in this way in the movement for female liberation.