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Like a bear protecting her cubs, anger is the message carrying the need. It holds within in it all the painful traces of being ignored, silenced, unseen, punished, or otherwise dehumanized. It’s a messenger from the places that need care. If you find anger hard to engage with, whether because you find it overwhelming in yourself or hard to bear in someone else, you may need to slow down and learn to listen to it.

Learn to listen between the lines of your anger. Listen for the meaning struggling to be understood, and for the emotions desperate to be known…


Forgive your way into the habits that you’ve always wanted.

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Drake sat bone straight on the edge of the couch, eyes flitting between me and the bookshelf. “I don’t know what’s wrong with me; I know its not good for me to drink, it is such a bad habit,” he grumbled. The eye-flit of shame betrayed his self-contempt. The anger he cast on himself for the assumed wrongness of his behavior was palpable.

Drake is not alone. Almost everyone in my practice, including myself, has at some point in their efforts to shift habits of behavior, thinking, or feeling, said in frustration, “I don’t know what’s wrong with me” or…

Amber Cady, MFT

Artist | Psychotherapist exploring thoughts, feelings, and ideas on the self. www.ambercadymft.com

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