
… sentence-stopping entrance. There was interest and attraction and raging curiosity. But not magic. In fact, it actually feels a lot like platonic love + sexual attraction. That is, the only real difference between platonic love and romantic love in this longstanding relationship is our physical intimacy and our level of emotional intimacy (based on fierce dedication to one another). It’s not magic, but it sure is beautiful.
The problem of “love at first sight” is that it gives license to those who choose to waltz. It makes it easier — lessens the guilt — if you can say that you just don’t “love” your longstanding partner anymore and now you finally “love” someone again. Not your fault. Sorry kids.
…isite that they passed the test for a long time ago, so now they don’t have to do the work anymore. “I love you, but…” has got to be one of the most cheapening ways to express love. It essentially says, “I can now say whatever I want to you — helpful or harmful — because I already paid lip service to my automatically-endowed love for you.”