A friend of mine shared an except of a book he’s reading the other day and the simple message of the page and a half he shared was:
Imagine for a moment that all humans recognised each other as another human.
No religion. No countries. No job titles. No judgement.
Recognised as such by each and every one of us.
Last week we talked with Char about unconscious bias and how difficult it it is to spot. I see the thoughts above as a way of noticing if you’re making decisions based on unconscious bias.
If we strip…
I have, and I know a few others on social media who have been sharing similar thoughts and feelings.
Is it the change in the weather? The ongoing lockdown restrictions? The impact this is having on work and relationships? Who knows?
We may know deep down, but it’s hard to filter out the noise from the actual feelings sometimes. Particularly if there’s no one around you who you feel like you can offload onto in a safe and confidential manner.
I know that for me the last two weeks have equally gone rapidly fast while also being incredibly draining. …
Today on Cuppa’ Tea we revisited our discussion on power yesterday with Josh, talked about Greggs reopening, values and continued the conversation of Loneliness for #LonelinessAwarenessWeek.
We had some really heartfelt comments and thoughts come through from the group and people supporting each other and I think this comment really tied everything together.
Being lonely is no basis for a relationship. If you’re lonely because you don’t love yourself don’t expect others to pick up the piece because you will always find a reason not to love yourself.
This gives you power.
If you already know that you rock the…
It’s not a value that often gets talked about but it’s probably my most revered value.
It helps me in seeing and understanding that ay outcome is possibility and I can use my imagination to create open ended possibilities.
It also helps me when listening to the everyday expert around me.
I read an abundance of self-help books and I learn lessons in each of them because I approach each and everyone with the belief that they are the best thing I will learn.
I don’t approach anyone with any hint of cynicism and this allows me to see…
“Because of you I don’t have any new scars”
The benefit of knowing what your own rock bottom feels like is that you can use your insight and experience, with a little structure from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) to really help other people.
I will never know what your individual circumstances and thoughts feel like, but I will recognise them for what they. I will provide you with methods and examples of how you can think differently and change your relationship with your thoughts.
While leading an ACT based service for people affected by cancer we reduced anxiety and…
Hello! Welcome to old and new followers to the HelloTomDyer page!
As we’ve had an influx of new people this week (because I got over myself and actually invited people to like the page) I thought now would be a good time to introduce myself.
As you may have guessed from the website name, I am Tom Dyer. 👋🏻
I am currently seeing out my redundancy notice period where I’d led a mental health service for the last two years based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for people affected by cancer.
I want more people to gain the benefit…
This doesn’t mean, not be kind to them.
It means that should there be someone in or out of work who is causing a blockade and hindering you and your development, does not need to define how you conduct yourself around them.
We too eagerly start thinking about other peoples’ needs before our own, particularly if you are a natural carer type personality. We give so much of ourself to someone who doesn’t have our best interests at heart which in turn, can cause us to then have negative thoughts of ourself.
“Why was so nice to him?” “Why did…
I believe that we all extraordinary.
Every single one of us has lived a special portion of time on this planet and we are all valuable and worthy of knowing just how special we each are.
My mission is to make everyone know just how extraordinary they are!
No one else has lived their life the way you have. No one knows how we think and interpret the world around us. Even those who know ‘everything about us’ don’t know everything. We’ve all experienced highs and lows in our life. These do not define us or hold us back. They…
Our brain is remarkable. Yet we barely know how it works.
Our brains function is to keep us alive. It does this by reading external and internal signals and making sure that we are as safe as can be.
Back in the day, and I mean way back, the brains primary function was to gather food and keep predators at bay. You wouldn’t want to get caught with your loin clothe by your ankles with a bear around the corner.
As a result, humans developed caution, and more advanced, pattern recognition and vision.
All of a sudden we could predict…
Three years ago I was doing really well. I had a job, a girlfriend, a cheap rented house, nice car, gadgets to film my future career on.
All of them, except the car (although it did get broken into), disappeared in the space of three months.
Things were hard and I was in a low place. A few things kept me going and picked me back up:
When my car got broken into the first thing I did was finish the gig I was playing. Then I went home, packed a suitcase and left. I rang my…