Happiness Hack: This One Ritual Made Me Much Happier
Nir Eyal
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Great article. I’m glad to say that, even though I’m still young (23), my friends and I felt the effects of the start of our careers were coming and developed habits like your kibbutz. Our plan was to get ahead of all these difficulties that were sure to come.

Personally, I tried to take it further and started developing more than just one circle of friendships. I’m well aware that I might not be able to mantain them all, but I just believe that it’s a good habit.

The most efficient method I found was to set a schedule of activities. I have friends that I play tennis with every other week. Another couple of guys that I play chess weekly. And another group that usually hangs out to discuss random topics (similar to your kibbutz, but less organized).

I believe that these habits are good not only for maintaining close relationships, but also working on other aspects of our lives. The tennis buddies started to worry more about their fitness and body health, the chess guys are constantly reading more about the sport, which not only makes the matches more and challenging and fun, but also brings up a whole new universe of stuff we can talk about. As for the ‘discussions group’, I noticed that everyone seems to be improving reading habits overall.

The point I’m trying to make here is that the benefits of these habits are so many that sometimes we can’t even keep track of them all. And also that, like every habit, it never hurts to start at a young age and not wait for adulthood to slap us on the face to start working on our relationships.