The only negative I have about body positive…

Herb Cochley
Sep 2, 2018 · 1 min read

…is that it is a statement to explain away what shouldn’t matter in the first place. “Oh, gee, you are fat. Are you the ‘depressed, miserable, constantly complaining kind of fat person’, or the ‘arrogant, body positive, attitude positive’ kind of fat person”?

Personally, I have been both. And in my life I have loved both. Today I run from both because neither seems to be a good way to live.

Somehow, we need to break the cycle and just not let it matter anymore. Love people for who they are. The problem is most fat people can’t react that way because they are too busy being one of the above. And yes, I fall under the cast-the-first-stone clause. My only escape was becoming thin.

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