Hermes Solenzol Ph.D.
Nov 1 · 1 min read

This is how you do BDSM. This is not how everybody does or should do BDSM. There are people who do it 24/7, who do not slip in and out of character. It’s okay to play in scenes, but it’s also okay to make long-term commitments to behave a certain way with a certain person all the time. I once make a deal with a woman to be her guide in her life, order her around and mete out punishment if she did something wrong. It was not a game. It was dead-serious for both of us. That lasted one year. It was a life-changing experience for me. Please be more respectful of the decision of others, less judgmental and learn more about the many ways people live BDSM.

    Hermes Solenzol Ph.D.

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    I am a neuroscientist doing research on the physiology of pain. My interests include writing popular science and erotic novels in English and Spanish.