Ask

Lately I’ve been thinking how much we learn when we are asked questions about who we are, and what we want. The only places I can think of where that happens regularly are job interviews and online dating profiles. At what other time do we think about this? When does someone ask? And how willing are you to be honest?

What do you want?

Desire itself is a potent thing.

When someone asks what you want, do you give the answer that will put you in a good light? Do you give the answer that seems fair and reasonable? Do you answer in the way you wish was true?

And especially with regard to sex.

It’s such a powerful energy, and often, I think, mishandled and misunderstood. We become isolated in a sense. It’s difficult to explore in a way that feels safe and honest. There are usually other forces at play — a desire to not be judged, any residual guilt or shame, or an expectation that sex is supposed to go a certain way because that’s what you learn from movies or books or porn.

Sex can be a lot of things.

I see us all as various expressions of the same Life force, the same creative force. And there is a light inside us that seeks out the same light in others. Because I think Life loves itself and wants to know about itself through the various expressions — through our being and relating.

So I feel that there is a particular aspect of this light in me that recognizes and is drawn to that same light in you. Wanting to know itself by relating to you, and feeling itself by feeling and being felt by you.

Sometimes, if you’re lucky, you’ll meet a person who makes you question everything.

That is how you come to greater intimacy with yourself, greater clarity and awareness of who you are, and what you want.