Dating After 50 — An Introduction

Emil Lahr
Emil Lahr
Sep 2, 2018 · 3 min read

As women, many of us have led happy and productive lives, even as singles. Yes, that’s right. It’s a myth that we can’t be happy by ourselves. Then 50 comes and goes, and perhaps you feel like something’s missing. Perhaps you feel like you’d like to share this time in your life with a special someone. Good for you — it’s time to take up dating once again.

If you are nervous about finding a companion that’s right for you, don’t worry — Mr. Right is out there. Then again, remember, “You sometimes have to kiss a lot of toads to find that prince.” Whether you are 30, 40, or 50 your soul mate is out there, but you need to be ready to spend time dating to find him.

Don’t see those dates as tedious or time wasters. After all, how else are you going to find a companion that’s right for you? Instead, why not look at them as opportunities to meet new people, enjoy some conversation, a night out rather than sitting at home, and see where it leads. Sure, there’s going to be a few that after it’s over, you’ll wish that you would have stayed home, but life isn’t perfect and neither is dating.

Remember, the men you go on a date with are also looking for the right companion. They may be nervous and anxious too. Don’t be too discouraged when things don’t go like you hoped. Let hope triumph, and don’t give up.

Loneliness is not the answer. Empower yourself to find romance. Contrary to what you keep hearing, “not all the good ones are taken.” Don’t change who you are. Your soul mate and lifelong companion is out there and will love you for exactly who you are. So change your attitude and love again.

Don’t let other scare you into thinking dating is dangerous. You have the power to keep your dates safe. You have the skills to read the signs of possible dangers. And don’t let past hurts and disappointments stop you for looking for a new love. Don’t let fear stop you from finding that companionship you desire.

Take the first step and figure out what it is that appeals to you. If you have been in a long term relationship and only recently find yourself on the dating seen as a mature adult, remember what appealed to you years ago may not be what appeals to you today. Think about what appeals to you — don’t answer too quickly. Think about the woman you’ve become and what you want out of life now.

Mature singles are busy people — they have careers, family commitments, lifestyle commitments to staying healthy, and other activities that are important to them. If you don’t make time to start dating you are going to miss out on the opportunity to find the romance and loving relationship you desire.

Let hope live on — there is true love, companionship, soul mates, and perfect endings.

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