You Are Not Equal. I’m Sorry.
Dina Leygerman
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I ran across an article in Facebook today by a Dina Leygerman. I assume it is titled “You Are Not Equal. I’m Sorry.” Either that or she was yelling that out. The article was in response to a post making rounds in social media, a more negative response to the Women’s March that occurred on January 21, 2017. Here is my response to Dina. 
You tell me to say Thank You. Thank you to Susan B Anthony and Alice Paul. Thank you to Elizabeth Stanton, thank you to Maud Wood Park, thank you to Rose Schneiderman, Eleanor Roosevelt, Molly Dewson, Margaret Sager, Carol Downer, Sarah Muller, Ruth Bader Ginsberg, the list goes on. And yes, we should all be thankful for these amazing women who went above and beyond to ensure that we as women have a better life to live. But seriously, can you honestly tell me that Madonna was saying thank you to those women when she expressed her desire to blow up the White House? Was Ashley Judd saying thank you when she was going on about being a “nasty woman”? Give me a break. There may have been quite a number of women out there to do just what you say, express gratitude for the awesome women before them, but there were a lot of women there to just be there because apparently the thing to do in any situation you do not agree with, is protest. Sure, these women, and I include friends and loved ones in this category, had their legitimate, valuable reasons for being there. As a whole though, I’m not sure that any of them really had one general purpose for organizing in the thousands in pink hats, signs about their uterus, and signs about love when they gathered on Capitol lawns. What truly was your point? What were you really trying to say?
I’m not wrapped in a delusion of equality. But let’s again be real here. I happen to work in government, and for the job I do, since the government is on particularly defined pay bands, yep, I do in fact make the same amount of money as my male counterpart. Let’s talk about athletes. Athletes’ salaries are driven by what the American public wants to spend money on. So for some reason, a professional male basketball game has more popularity than the women’s NBA. This is a problem the government needs to solve? The game of football is more popular, more entertaining to watch than women’s soccer so it is the government’s fault that athletes get paid differently. I fail to see the logic. Now I’m not going to argue about a CEO’s salary or an actress, or a doctor. Sure, there is probably an argument to be made about the salary differences there. Still not sure the government should be the focus of that particular rant.
I’ll move to my rights over my own body. I beg to differ with you on this one. Based on the choices I have made for myself I’m pretty darn sure I have the right to the decisions I make about my own body. But that is probably because I don’t expect the government to handle my issues for me. So they can debate away about that one. We all have choices.
You let me know when you find a country where every person walking the streets at night feels perfectly safe. Really, we are going to bring the fact that a woman needs to practice self-defense as a point of protest. I would argue that there are men out there that probably feel unsafe out there. This isn’t a gender issue. This is a good verses bad issue. I’m not touching the rape issues. I concede on that one.
Maternity leave, I’m touching that one. We all have a choice to be parents. We have the choice to obtain jobs where they have benefits such as maternity leave. We have the choice to obtain jobs that have health benefits that allow for such luxuries as staying home with our infants. And yes it is a luxury to be able to do so. If you want to live in a country where the government mandates that and pays for it, then by all means, go there. Tell me what you think after a while. What might they be giving up for that so called human right? We all have choices. As you stated above, I should be thankful for the fact that I have the right to be educated. And with that happy little education I obtained, I made choices. 
All the things you marched for on January 21, 2017, on the lawns of capitols, at the country’s capitol, they are all things right now that are in our control. The problem is that people as a whole seem to presume that it should be the government’s problem to fix. That the government should be responsible for waving a wand and giving us these rights. 
I’m an educated woman, in Social Work, no less. Based on that, I should have been out there with all the women, marching alongside them with my sign. Because I’m a woman. You gripe about the government having too much control over our lives, but really you are requesting that the government mandate even more. Where does the government find the money to support all that is required of your requests? Oh, yeah, from those of us who didn’t march, because we made the choice, to get out, get educated, get a job with benefits, pay our bills, and live as we choose with the small extra we might have that isn’t being taken away in taxes to fund all the government mandated rights you need. And no, since you are wondering, I don’t make 6 figures, I don’t live in a mansion, and I don’t drive a fancy car. I’m a regular gal, living pretty much pay check to pay check, teaching my child the responsibility that comes with being an American citizen in a free country.I ran across an article in Facebook today by a Dina Leygerman. I assume it is titled “You Are Not Equal. I’m Sorry.” Either that or she was yelling that out. The article was in response to a post making rounds in social media, a more negative response to the Women’s March that occurred on January 21, 2017. Here is my response to Dina. 
You tell me to say Thank You. Thank you to Susan B Anthony and Alice Paul. Thank you to Elizabeth Stanton, thank you to Maud Wood Park, thank you to Rose Schneiderman, Eleanor Roosevelt, Molly Dewson, Margaret Sager, Carol Downer, Sarah Muller, Ruth Bader Ginsberg, the list goes on. And yes, we should all be thankful for these amazing women who went above and beyond to ensure that we as women have a better life to live. But seriously, can you honestly tell me that Madonna was saying thank you to those women when she expressed her desire to blow up the White House? Was Ashley Judd saying thank you when she was going on about being a “nasty woman”? Give me a break. There may have been quite a number of women out there to do just what you say, express gratitude for the awesome women before them, but there were a lot of women there to just be there because apparently the thing to do in any situation you do not agree with, is protest. Sure, these women, and I include friends and loved ones in this category, had their legitimate, valuable reasons for being there. As a whole though, I’m not sure that any of them really had one general purpose for organizing in the thousands in pink hats, signs about their uterus, and signs about love when they gathered on Capitol lawns. What truly was your point? What were you really trying to say?
I’m not wrapped in a delusion of equality. But let’s again be real here. I happen to work in government, and for the job I do, since the government is on particularly defined pay bands, yep, I do in fact make the same amount of money as my male counterpart. Let’s talk about athletes. Athletes’ salaries are driven by what the American public wants to spend money on. So for some reason, a professional male basketball game has more popularity than the women’s NBA. This is a problem the government needs to solve? The game of football is more popular, more entertaining to watch than women’s soccer so it is the government’s fault that athletes get paid differently. I fail to see the logic. Now I’m not going to argue about a CEO’s salary or an actress, or a doctor. Sure, there is probably an argument to be made about the salary differences there. Still not sure the government should be the focus of that particular rant.
I’ll move to my rights over my own body. I beg to differ with you on this one. Based on the choices I have made for myself I’m pretty darn sure I have the right to the decisions I make about my own body. But that is probably because I don’t expect the government to handle my issues for me. So they can debate away about that one. We all have choices.
You let me know when you find a country where every person walking the streets at night feels perfectly safe. Really, we are going to bring the fact that a woman needs to practice self-defense as a point of protest. I would argue that there are men out there that probably feel unsafe out there. This isn’t a gender issue. This is a good verses bad issue. I’m not touching the rape issues. I concede on that one.
Maternity leave, I’m touching that one. We all have a choice to be parents. We have the choice to obtain jobs where they have benefits such as maternity leave. We have the choice to obtain jobs that have health benefits that allow for such luxuries as staying home with our infants. And yes it is a luxury to be able to do so. If you want to live in a country where the government mandates that and pays for it, then by all means, go there. Tell me what you think after a while. What might they be giving up for that so called human right? We all have choices. As you stated above, I should be thankful for the fact that I have the right to be educated. And with that happy little education I obtained, I made choices. 
All the things you marched for on January 21, 2017, on the lawns of capitols, at the country’s capitol, they are all things right now that are in our control. The problem is that people as a whole seem to presume that it should be the government’s problem to fix. That the government should be responsible for waving a wand and giving us these rights. 
I’m an educated woman, in Social Work, no less. Based on that, I should have been out there with all the women, marching alongside them with my sign. Because I’m a woman. You gripe about the government having too much control over our lives, but really you are requesting that the government mandate even more. Where does the government find the money to support all that is required of your requests? Oh, yeah, from those of us who didn’t march, because we made the choice, to get out, get educated, get a job with benefits, pay our bills, and live as we choose with the small extra we might have that isn’t being taken away in taxes to fund all the government mandated rights you need. And no, since you are wondering, I don’t make 6 figures, I don’t live in a mansion, and I don’t drive a fancy car. I’m a regular gal, living pretty much pay check to pay check, teaching my child the responsibility that comes with being an American citizen in a free country.

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